7 Things You Need to do in Your Lifetime

Hey guys!

I’d like to welcome a fabulous guest to the blog today – Sarah Jensen.

Sarah is a writer, speaker and life coach at SarahJensen.com.au.

The creator of the Rock Your Goals workshops and online course, Sarah helps big hearted bloggers, dreamers, entrepreneurs and business mavens rock their goals and live their life, their way, on their terms. 

Take it away, Sarah!

Sarah Jensen of sarahjensen.com.au

I’ve been living and breathing goal rocking lately and it got me to thinking about bucket lists.

When I was little and someone asked me what I wanted to do in life, I guarantee you my answer would have rivalled even the greediest kid’s Christmas list.

At one point I had a notebook with over 100 goals in it. Everything from the places I wanted go and languages I wanted to learn, to crazy adventures like skydiving (tick) and bungee jumping (yet to tick).

But the more I think about it, the more I’ve realised that some of the most powerful items on a bucket list are the habits that help you live a balanced and beautiful life.

So here are 7 things you need to do in your lifetime…

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1. Learn to say yes

Let go of the fear and just say yes – to that dinner invitation, that man, that job or that dress.

Embrace the joy and spontaneity of life and just say yes.

2. Learn to say no

But wait, Sarah, you just said I’m supposed to say yes to life – what are you on about, woman?

Learning to say no is really freaking hard, especially for us people pleasing women who just want to make the whole world happy.  But one of the most important things you’ll ever do for yourself (and your sanity) is to get comfortable saying no – and not just to the crap in life.

Sometimes when you say no to something that feels like a great opportunity (especially when you KNOW you don’t have time for it but you really, REALLY want it) you can end up opening the door to even more incredible opportunities in life.

3. Stop apologising

As women we apologise far too often and it’s got to stop!

You bump into someone in the supermarket, you say sorry. You take more than 10 minutes to reply to an email, you say sorry. You think you’ve done something to offend someone (even though usually you haven’t), you say sorry. Something good happens to you, you say sorry. It’s nuts!

So I want you to do a little experiment: for 24 hours, pay attention to how often you say “sorry” and what you apologise for.

When you notice yourself saying sorry, take a minute to think, “Did I really need to apologise for that?” If the answer is yes that’s cool, move on. If it’s no then just bring a little awareness to that moment and let yourself off the hook. The aim here is to break the habit of apologising all the time so you can save sorry for when it’s really needed.

4. Do something that scares you

Whether it’s a daredevil move like hang gliding or having your hair cut short, or something lower key like trying a new lunch place, if it’s scary to you then it’s a big deal.

But here’s the thing – without fear, there’s no growth.

It’s in feeling the fear and doing it anyway that we expand our confidence and our comfort zone. So get out there and try something that scares the pants off you and know that starting small is OK.

5. Love so hard it hurts

Disclaimer – this isn’t just about some picture perfect pairing of two star crossed lovers – this is about every kind of awesome love out there!

Love yourself, love your partner, love your pet or love your friend.

Whoever you love in your lifetime, allow yourself to love them deeply, honestly and completely and for no other reason than it fills you with soul and joy.

6. Fail epically so you can shine even brighter

I don’t know about you but when I was young I was a bit (OK, a LOT) of a perfectionist and I sucked at a lot of things so I “failed” a lot of the time. But now I’m in my 30s (and all mature and stuff) I’ve realised that failure is actually more of an exercise in perspective.

Like feeling the fear and doing it anyway, failure is what builds character, strength and some serious self-belief.

It’s also a lot easier when you re-frame it and see that there’s actually no such thing as failure. It’s all just a big, beautiful experiment where we get to try things on for size, dabble and discover what we like and don’t like; what we’re good and not so good at (ice skating, cooking fish and applying make-up, I’m looking at you!).

7. Sing in public even if you suck at it

Because everyone needs to get tipsy and sing their favourite song (loudly and off key) at least once in their life!

What’s your karaoke song?

Have you done any of these things so far in your lifetime?

What would you add to the list?

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Got big dreams but no idea how to get there? Feeling lost or in a rut? Not achieving the things you want in life?

Sarah’s ‘Rock Your Goals’ eCourse is for you.

{And me – I’ve signed up already!}

In this 10 day online course, Sarah will work with you so you can get crystal clear about what you want and how you want to feel.

You’ll have the chance to dig deep and unearth all those amazing dreams and desires you’ve been burying for far too long.

Sarah will work with you to create a roadmap you can follow step by step as you rock your goals and create the kick ass life you’ve been longing to live.

What you get:

  • 10 delicious emails filled with goal rocking goodness direct to your inbox. Each email will spell out the process step by step with one activity each day.
  • Simple, easy to follow PDF worksheets with all the information you need to complete the exercise each day. These worksheets will walk you through the process with clear explanations, examples you can relate to and space to write all your incredible goals, dreams and ideas.
  • Short and supportive audio files each day to guide you on your goal rocking journey.
  • Access to the private Rock Your Goals Facebook group. This is where the magic happens and you can share with + support your fellow goal rockers. This will be your safe space where you can ask questions, share ideas, connect with accountability buddies and celebrate with people who are on the same journey as you.

Rock Your Goals online kicks off on Monday 18 January 2016.

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  1. says

    Hey awesome lady! Thank you so much for having me over to guest write on your absolutely wonderful site. Cannot wait to goal rock with you gorgeous. Thanks for sharing the love. Sarah xx

    • says

      I’m officially BANNING you from apologising gorgeous lady! 🙂 SO excited that you’re on board for the course. Big love to you amazing lady. You inspire the heck out of me. xx

    • says

      Woo! So excited to have you join me for the course gorgeous one. And no more apologising! If you need to, find a few alternative words to use so you have to really think about it each time you go to say ‘sorry’ – it will help you bring more awareness to your habit and help you break it. x

  2. says

    OMG I apologise all of the time even if things aren’t my fault! Why do we do that??!! Arrgghh!! I will try to stop…
    I also need to start saying both yes and no to things too… We deny ourselves so much and spread ourselves so thinly at the same time that we are missing so many important pleasures or opportunities in life… Great read, got me thinking anyway (via sbb) x

  3. says

    Hey Sarah! Love the tips and it is so funny when I was younger I made a list of 100 goals to but love your take on making goals that will make you happy and not solely focusing on goals that just fun. Definitely checking out your course because Im such a goal digger too 🙂

  4. says

    I love that you’re a great big goal digger just like me Steph and so cool that you had a big list of goals. Do you remember what the craziest goal was that you wrote down? I think one of my crazy goals (Sonia you’ll relate to the order of this one) was to own a CD for every letter of the alphabet. I think CDs went “out of fashion” before I achieved that one! I’d love to have you join us for the course lovely. If you have any questions just shout. x

  5. Melinda says

    These are awesome points! I’m forever apologise and always seem to be swaying from saying yes all the time to saying no all the time… have to find that perfect balance.

    As for the singing thing, I’m all over that. I often sing at Coles when I’m doing the grocery shopping (I should mention that I’m terribly tone deaf too!)

    • says

      Oh I so hear you on the yes and no imbalance Melinda (but then I have a bit of a tendency to be an all or nothing kinda gal – especially when it comes to chocolate)! I love that you sing at Coles. I do that too and I love it when you have those random moments where you hear other people singing a few aisles away. So cool. 🙂

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