What Would You Say?

What would you say? | soniastyling.com

I know someone who is on the verge of losing their significant other.

My heart hurts for this person.

Can you imagine? I certainly can’t.

It’s all I can think about and it’s got me thinking about all the things we don’t say in our everyday lives. The things we only seem to share out loud in the most monumental moments in life. At a wedding. Or a funeral.

Why do we silence these words, when they live inside our hearts every single day?

When I found out this news, I immediately called my husband. He couldn’t believe it. How utterly devastating, he said. I agreed. And then changed the subject. Deflected the sadness because it was so deep and so intense and there was so much more I wanted to say to the man I love, who was in the middle of a very busy work day… but I didn’t.

And so I will now.

To my husband: you fill my life with so much happiness. Your belief in me and support of my dreams has instilled me with more confidence in our time together than I’ve ever had in my entire life. You make me laugh. So. Damn. Hard. You’re the first person I want to share good news with. And bad. You’re the one whose advice and opinion I value above all others. You’re the only person I’ve ever trusted with my heart. And I’d trust you with my life. I love you more than I could ever explain… I just hope I get enough time in this world to show you.

What would you say to the one you love if you were to completely bare your soul?

You don’t have to say it in the comments if you don’t want to, but please tell them. Today.


  1. Suzie says

    Beautiful words; everyone should experience love like yours. Fortunately I do too. Wishing it for everyone

  2. Buffy says

    Done, just sms’ed my husbo now. My heart goes out to anyone in that situation. Sending so much love. xxx

  3. says

    It’s weird because Mr Smaggle and I are actually very vocal about our love. I think on average we’d say we love each other about 20 times a day. At almost any given moment, if anything happened to either one of us the last words we said would probably be I love you. It’s not always smooshy I love you’s sometimes it’s ‘I FUCKING LOVE YOU!!!’ hollered from the kitchen or he’ll whack me in the head with a pillow and say ‘You’re too pretty. I had to ruin it.’

    I do hold him extra close when things like this happen. A friend of mine from high school lost her partner of ten years to an incredibly random heart attack when he was 30. I think about her all the time.

    It’s lovely to have little reminders like this to hug the ones we love.

    Also – I love you! Just in case I haven’t told you recently. xxx

    • Sonia says

      Don’t get me wrong – we tell each other we love each other several times a day, too. I just mean the deeper stuff normally reserved for drunken conversations…! 😉 And I love you too, my gorgeous friend. x

  4. merilyn says

    well said thankyou Sonia! … sad news is always a trigger!
    life is too short not to tell people when they are lovely!
    you are! … much love m:)X

  5. says

    The hubby and I are usually pretty vocal about how we feel. I can’t imagine what it would be like to lose him. My heart goes out to that person and I’m definitely going to say ‘I love you’ a few extra times today.

  6. Mrs Collins says

    My husband died unexpectedly six weeks after our wedding in very tragic circumstances. It’s been two years and three months and while words can’t describe how difficult it has been, I am grateful that we spoke about our love every day. I have so many beautiful memories and letters and cards that remind me how lucky I am to have known him. Thanks for reminding people to treasure those who are still here, it makes me sad when I see couples take for granted what they still have.

    • Sonia says

      Oh my goodness, I cannot even begin to image the hurt and heartbreak you’ve gone through and continue to go through. Hold tight to those beautiful memories and thank you for being brave enough to share your story with us. Much love and light to you. x

  7. Natalie poss says

    Sonia, I just read your blog and it raises an thought in my mind that we so easily loose focus of deep things such as this, we are all so hectic in our own lives with work and catching up on our day to day lives that these things don’t come to thought until like you said something is about to happen… Definitely need to take a step back and realise the things and people we take for granted… Thank you for sharing this blog and reframing my mind on not getting caught up in the hecticness 😘

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